Dating Coach MN: Help! I like 3 Ladies Who Do I Pick to Date – Dating CoachKK Answers

Dating Coach MN, Dating Advice Column, Dating Q&A Dear KK,

Help! I like 3 girls and I don’t know what to do.

I am a college student that likes 2 women that I go to school with and I also like another woman that I met at a college I work at. I like all 3 equally and I think about them equally. I can’t decide which one I should make a move on or which one I feel stronger for.

The college that I go to is a community college so it is likely the 2 women I like from there are from the area. Whereas the college I work at is a 4 year university which increases the odds that the woman I like from there could be from further away. This may mean during breaks we may be apart for awhile.

It is not allowed to date any of the students where I work, but that will not stop me. I think it would be fun to have a secret relationship.

At the very least I know these women know I exist. I really like these 3 women and have no idea how to approach this. What should I do?

Admirer of 3

Dating Advice from Dating CoachKK

Admirer of 3,

Thank you for writing in and trusting me to give you some advice.

From what you have shared I am under the impression that you have yet to go on a date with any of these three ladies. So that leads me to believe through casual interactions you have become attracted to these ladies however you do not know enough yet to really know which one you like not to mention if they are interested in dating you. Assuming this is accurate here is my advice:

Ask them out already!

If you have not dated these ladies then this is your first step. Only through dating can you fully explore not only what level of attraction and compatibility you have with them but also what they also feel they have with you.

It seems to me that you feel like you have to pick just one to ask out and that simply is not the case. There is nothing wrong with dating each of them at the same time provided you do not lead them on. It is important to keep in perspective that asking someone out is not committing to them you will date no one else nor does it commit you to having to get into a relationship with them. Asking someone out on a date simply is an act to show your interest in them and gives you both an opportunity to get to know one another better. You see where things go from there.

By dating these three ladies at the same time you should discover what my coaching clients discover when they date more than one person at a time and that is it is a lot easier then you think it is and there are several benefits to this approach. You should feel yourself more relaxed on dates because you know you have other options if it doesn’t work out. Also, as time passes you should find yourself drawn to one of these ladies more than the others. At that point you should be able to confidently move forward with the lucky lady.

You don’t need to rush into the decision of who you wish to be in a relationship with right away. Think about what it is you are looking for at this time. Are you looking for a serious relationship or to simply cut loose and have some fun? Take 3 to 4 dates to decide who you like most and weigh the different variables you already are against how much you enjoy being with them and who fits best with the type of relationship it is you are desiring to have. This is not a race so take your time and enjoy getting to know them.

Be confident, have fun, and good luck!


– K

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Dating CoachKK, Kimberly Koehler is the leading dating coach in Minneapolis, Minnesota who helps single men and women not only locally in the Twin Cities but also nationally and globally. As a renowned dating and relationship expert and professional speaker I bring you practical and applicable dating strategies and solutions to the most frustrating dating struggles. My passion is to leading single men and single women through the dating maze empowering them to achieve the dating life they desire. Contact me today to find out how I may be able to assist you 612.568.3577



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Dating CoachKK, Kimberly Koehler is the leading dating and relationship coach in Minneapolis, MN who helps men and women globally. As a renowned coach and professional speaker I bring you practical and applicable strategies and solutions to the most common dating and relationship struggles. Date smarter, have stronger relationship and join me as we navigate the dating and relationship maze.

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