Dating Advice MN: What’s the difference between a Matchmaker and a Dating Coach?

Dating Coach MN brings singles tips and coaching to finding loveWhat is the difference between a matchmaker and a dating coach?

Now, that is an excellent question!

If you are like me you are fighting the urge to break out in song and dance to … “Matchmaker, matchmaker make me a match, find me a man, find me a catch” but at last I simply am to weak and could not fight off the urge and have started humming it. I have this tune serenaded to me every week and with every serenade I am forced to point out that I am a dating coach, not a matchmaker. I am not saying I refrain from introducing people I think would be great matches to one another from time to time nor am I saying I refrain from bring two people together at a social gathering or event that I am hosting that I can see have a “thing” brew’n however that is not the primary focus of a dating coach.

One fishes for you and one teaches you how to fish for yourself

To best describe the difference between a matchmaker and a dating coach like me is that old saying, you know the one… “…give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”

What a matchmaker does is they fish for you. They bait the hook, they reel them in and then they hand the rod off to you. As a dating coach what I do is not only teach you how to fish for yourself but to also know what to do with the fish once you have landed it.  I do believe matchmaking has its time and place. But which of the two services do you think singles benefit the most from?

Time and time again I have had singles come to me after spending thousands and thousands of dollars on matchmaking services that has left them frustrated, discouraged and ready to give up. Over and over again I hear similar stories about the matchmaker not finding the right kind of people for them. Would this be because matchmakers are horrible at what they do?  It could but most often then not I don’t think so. I think it has more to do with a very important part of dating that is missed when singles turn to a matchmaker prematurely.

Matchmakers are not a magic pill

Often times singles have unrealistic expectations that matchmakers are a magic pill.  Many singles believe that the matchmaker is the one responsible for all the heavy lifting, when in fact a matchmaker should simply be considered as a possible addition to the various tools and resources you are already using to meet that wonderful someone.

As a dating coach my focus is on assisting my single clients by not only sharpening their dating skills but also ensuring they are prepared and ready for the dating world by building a strong, stable, and strategic path for them to follow. I believe it is equally important that singles are not only skilled at finding and attracting someone but also that they know how to date them once they have found someone they are interested in.

A dating coach tends to be more of a life coach as they assist in developing many areas of a client’s life

There are many reasons why people are single. Everyone has their own struggles and roadblocks that are holding them back from what they are seeking to find. Some singles know what those are while many more do not. As a dating coach it is my job to help singles with these roadblocks. Dating coaches tend to do a lot of life coaching with their clients working on skills like over coming low self-esteem, building confidence, overcoming the fear of rejection, implementing life balance, overcoming shyness, mending hearts, weight loss, overcoming financial struggles, career shifts, implementing life goals, and last and most certainly not least assisting them in aligning themselves with who they are, who they desire to date, and how that all aligns with the life they desire to have.

As you can see, there is a big difference between a matchmaker and a dating coach. There is no one out there that can shoot an arrow or give you a magic pill to take today and wake up tomorrow with Mr. or Ms. Wonderful laying beside you. Like all things worth having in life – dating, love and relationships take time, energy and some skill to achieving; but once you do the work the reward is so great.

Have more questions?

Interested in finding out more about hiring a dating coach? I welcome your email or feel free to simply pick up the phone and give me a call. I am happy to answer any questions you may have.

About Dating Coach MN:

Dating CoachKK, Kimberly Koehler is the leading dating coach in Minneapolis, Minnesota who helps single men and women not only locally in the Twin Cities but also nationally and globally. As a renowned dating and relationship expert and professional speaker I bring you practical and applicable dating strategies and solutions to the most frustrating dating struggles. My passion is to leading single men and single women through the dating maze empowering them to achieve the dating life they desire. Contact me today to find out how I may be able to assist you 612-568-3577

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Dating CoachKK, Kimberly Koehler is the leading dating and relationship coach in Minneapolis, MN who helps men and women globally. As a renowned coach and professional speaker I bring you practical and applicable strategies and solutions to the most common dating and relationship struggles. Date smarter, have stronger relationship and join me as we navigate the dating and relationship maze.

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