Dating Advice MN – Is being a strong woman stranding in between you and the relationship you desire?

Is being a strong woman standing in between you and the relationship you desire?

Dating-Coach-MN-Dating-Advice-to-Strong-Women-Dating-and-VulnerabilityRecently while attending a social event in Minneapolis, MN I was punched in the face with a reminder that “strong” single women can be their own worse enemy. This is not a new notion for me as I am hired by strong, successful single women every week to assist them in getting out of their own way. I do however enjoy the reminders that come my way when I am out and about enjoying everyday life. There are so many things we do that self-sabotage numerous areas of our lives and unfortunately when it comes to matters of our heart they are not immune to these sabotaging actions.

The most common question I am asked by this group of single women is this, “Why do men say they find strong independent women attractive but when they get it they don’t want it?” Well, what many strong single women who are independent don’t realize is that men either through not knowing it yet or through not completing their thought leave out that they are seeking someone who is not only strong and independent but also is willing to be a vulnerable, soft and loving companion. Yes, men enjoy an equal, they enjoy someone who is driven and has a direction to their life but they also desire in this woman the ability to be vulnerable and to know and truly understand how delicate the male ego is and will not emasculate them. They are looking for a balance of personality traits not for a woman to overpower them with their strength and independence.

Men, like women, want to know they are needed and that they have a place in someones life. It is a lonely feeling when your are not valued, needed or wanted. Strong women can very quickly make men feel this way because often times strong women are guarding their hearts from being broken. When you build a wall so large and thick few men are willing to work that hard with no guarantees they will get through it. So even if a man at first is drawn to a strong woman if she does not value him or makes him work too hard then the strong woman will ultimately repel the man.

5 Powerful Questions “Strong” Single Women Should Ask Themselves:

  1. Am I pretending to be strong as a way to protect myself from being vulnerable and getting hurt by someone who I let get close?
  2. Have I built a thick wall around my heart that is nearly impossible for someone to break through? What can I do to start breaking down my wall?
  3. What can I do to start trusting myself and men to be more vulnerable in dating and relationships?
  4. What can I do to build my confidence in myself so I don’t resort to relying on my strength as a crutch to keep good men at bay?
  5. Are there certain actions, phrases, or behaviors that I have when dealing with men or out socializing (in mixed company or other wise) that paint a picture to those around me that I am closed, bitter, or lack trust in men and or dating? How can I change these to send a message that is more positive and attractive to men?

When my clients and I work through these questions and implement strategies for them to grow into strong single women who are confident in their dating choices and willing to trust men and be vulnerable in their relationships they begin to let go of their fear and watch their dating lives soar. You can’t have the greatest love story if you are unwilling to go all in.

About Dating Coach MN:

Dating CoachKK, Kimberly Koehler is the leading dating coach in Minneapolis, Minnesota who helps single men and women not only locally in the Twin Cities but also nationally and globally. As a renowned dating and relationship expert and professional speaker I bring you practical and applicable dating strategies and solutions to the most frustrating dating struggles. My passion is to leading single men and single women through the dating maze empowering them to achieve the dating life they desire. Contact me today to find out how I may be able to assist you 612.568.3577


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Dating CoachKK, Kimberly Koehler is the leading dating and relationship coach in Minneapolis, MN who helps men and women globally. As a renowned coach and professional speaker I bring you practical and applicable strategies and solutions to the most common dating and relationship struggles. Date smarter, have stronger relationship and join me as we navigate the dating and relationship maze.
  1. Very helpful and great information. I appreciate advise especially coming from a professional.
    Thanks again and keep up the great work!

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