8 Tips for Dating and Finding Love in 2012

8 Tips for Dating and Finding Love in 2012

As we end 2011, we head into the time of year where many singles start to make their New Year Resolutions for 2012. Often times you hear your friends, family members, and co-workers speaking of the new years resolutions they have set for their careers, finances and of their health. As a dating coach I often times hear two very common new years resolutions about the dating lives of singles.  There are the people that have forsaken the opposite sex all together for the next year and then there are the Jane and James Bond of the single world that have made their new years resolutions be a mission of finding the love of their life.

The holidays can be very hard on single men and women. Many hope to spend this special time of the year with someone they care about. If for some reason they did not find this person prior to the holidays, it can take a toll on their hearts as they start making their plans for the new year. If you are one of these single people then I would like to encourage you to stay positive and to not be discouraged. I know that can be hard at times but having a positive attitude is half the battle to attracting the relationship you desire.  Having a solid new years resolution plan to follow will also help you on your journey. The list below contains my favorite elements of a solid new years resolution plan for singles looking to live a happy, healthy single life.

8 Critical Steps to a Successful New Years Resolution Action Plan for Singles in 2012

1) Ask yourself what worked for you this past year and what you enjoyed most about being single? You should be sure to include more of these activities in your plan for the next year.

2) Evaluate what you did not like this year about being single? What tools, events, activities did you try this year to achieve your dating and relationship life that you did not enjoy? Why didn’t you enjoy them? How could you improve this in 2012?

3) Sincerely in evaluating what actions or lack there of are holding you back from finding the type of relationship you desire. Then come up with ways that are going to allow you to grow and develop past these road blocks.

4) Evaluate what type of relationship it is that you truly desire. Understanding where you are in your life allows you to better understand and determine what type of relationship you are truly in a position to engage in. Once you know the answers to this then you are able to move forward better.

5) Are there any adjustments that you need to make to your style, attitude, or lifestyle? Yes, you should be true to yourself but I have had many clients that have come to me that needed some improvement in one or more of these areas. As they made these improvements, their confidence rose and they started to have the dating life they desired.

6) Make a list of the various outlets that exist for you to engage that will allow you to be exposed to other singles. If you are not present where singles are how can you meet them?  Part of your new years resolution should be setting a goal to be engaging other singles. Maybe it is updating your online profile and committing to sending out three emails a week to members on a site. If  you are better in person then engage groups with events. Plan out how many group events a week or month you are going to commit yourself to attend.

7) Set up a support system that is going to help you along this journey. You could speak to a friend or you could hire a dating coach like myself. Many of my clients have been single friends that together made new years resolutions to improve their dating life and together they hired me. They have enjoyed this because not only did they both have the advantage of being coached but they also had the additional support of one another.

8) Write out your new years resolution for your dating life as you would a business plan. You are planning to successfully find a relationship and this is no different then if it were a business. It is the business of your personal life and it is just as important if not more so than your business life.  Be sure to track your efforts and progress as well as making sure to build in time to assess and re-evaluate your progress.

You’re thinking of setting new years resolutions for your dating and relationship life because you desire to achieve different or better results then what you have had this year. In order to do this you need to be clear about the dating and relationship life you desire to achieve in order to be successful. Then you need to be committed to taking action to achieve that goal followed by accountability. If you are not seeing success in the action plan you made at the beginning of the year, then you need to re-evaluate your efforts and adjust.  I am repeating this because like anything else in your life that you desire to achieve, dating is no different. If you follow the above steps you will be starting your year out on a solid foundation. Sticking with the plan will lead you to success.


What are your new years resolutions for your dating life in 2012? Please share them below.

About the Author:

Dating Coach KK, is the leading dating coach in Minneapolis, Minnesota who helps singles not only locally throughout the Twin Cities but also nationally and globally.  As a renowned dating coach  and professional speaker she brings you practical  solutions to the most frustrating dating struggles. Her passion is to assist everyone with achieving the dating life they desire. Contact her today to find out how she can help you. 612.568.3577

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Dating CoachKK, Kimberly Koehler is the leading dating and relationship coach in Minneapolis, MN who helps men and women globally. As a renowned coach and professional speaker I bring you practical and applicable strategies and solutions to the most common dating and relationship struggles. Date smarter, have stronger relationship and join me as we navigate the dating and relationship maze.
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